With Baby Zuma Rossdale, carried securely in his arm there is nothing more adorable than this precious photo of father and son bonding. The baby’s beautiful facial language is expressing pure innocence, awe, and wonder at the sights and sounds around him . It is truly heart rendering.
Archive for July, 2009
Michael Jackson’s Father’s Body Language Shows Signs of Deception When Asked About Michael’s Abuse
July 24, 2009
Michael Jackson’s father’s body language on Larry King Live shows signals of deception as well as defensiveness asked about whether he abused Michael. Even though Joe Jackson’s words in his final statement to Larry King, says that he didn’t beat Michael, his body language said something entirely different. He shook his head “yes” when he made his statement. Saying something in the negative while shaking one’s head in the affirmative is often indication that the person may not be telling the truth.
The tone of a person’s voice is also a good indicator as to whether they are telling the truth or not. Throughout the Joe Jackson’s vocal tone with his harsh tonal attacks as he attempts to defend himself against the allegations that he abused Michael speaks volumes. When Larry first brings up the topic of abuse we see Joe immediately go into defensive mode as he vulgarly says “that’s a bunch of bull s”. Then the pitch of his voice goes up when he says he never harmed Michael which indicates his defensiveness and is often a sign of deception. At the beginning of the interview we see Joe’s head cocked the side and looking away to the side when he is asked questions which are also indicators of deception.
Immediately repeating a word or a phrase is another indicator of deception. Joe Jackson does this a lot during his interview in discussing whether he beat Michael, He says the word “never” and then as an after thought says “never have” to validate what he just said. Repetition takes place again as he says “And I and I raised” him just like you would raise your kids”.
As he says this he tosses out his arm in a rather dismissive body language action which indicates hostility. He often displays hostile body language as a form of defensiveness by lunging his body forward. It is most evident when he was discussing how people who spank their kids and don’t admit it are lying. He also throws his hands out in an aggressive motion.
As Joe independently volunteers more information his tone gets more defensive as he says “ Harm Micheal for what? I have no reason What’s my son I loved him. In Joe’s defense when he says “I loved him. And I still love him.”
As he says “ I loved him and still love him” for the first time we see Joe speaking in a non defensive tone with his head up in a confident manner as his eyes focus directly into the camera. This indicates that there is no doubt in his mind that in his own way, he definitely loved his son.
When Larry asks Joe whether Michael once said that Joe was physically and emotionally abusive to him . Joe looks down and licks his lips (signals of discomfort and often associated with deception). When Joe says the media keeps hollering about him beating his son, it is interesting that he would choose such an aggressive word as “ hollering” as opposed to a less aggressive word like “saying”. Next, Joes’s facial expression shows flashes of anger and his body language becomes more aggressive as he lunges forward while going into a diatribe as he says “you know where this beatin comes from” It comes from the days of slavery when they used to beat the slaves and they used to torture them, That’s where this beatin started.”
Going off on tangents that have little if anything o do with the subject discussed when asked a direct question is often a signal of deception. It is an attempt to take the focus off and divert attention from the key issue which is whether Joe beat Michael. Joe goes off on a tangent and says that that all this beating started in slavery when the slave masters beat the slaves. This of course had nothing to do with the question as to whether he beat Michael.
Then right afterwards he pauses, leans into the camera with his head down as she speaks softer as if to tell a secret. Unprompted and out of the blue, he brings up the topic of “spanking”. In doing so, it is as though he is admitting that he did indeed spank Michael and is now attempting to vindicate himself.
He says “ Larry there are a lot of people in America that spank their kids. And if they say they don’t (his voice gets louder and tone more aggressive ) They’re lying. “ Joe subsequently licks his lips which shows discomfort and uneasiness. Next, he throw his hands outwards in an aggressive and defensive manner.
The most telling of all body language signals is at the end of interview where Joe says. “ Michael was never beated.” He shakes his head yes as he adds “by me” and then licks his lips. Saying something in the negative (he never was beaten) and then shaking his head in the affirmative- “yes” says it all- that he did indeed beat Michael.
The bottom line is from Joes tone of voice and body language there is a clear indication that Michael was telling the truth when he openly admitted to Oprah and other members of the press that he was indeed beaten and did suffer abuse at the hands of his father.
Kate’s Angry Body Language Affects Hannah and Adan
July 19, 2009
Seeing Kate walking in the street with little Hannah and Adan is heartbreaking. The meanness in her face with her lip muscles turning downwards and the tension in her brow reflect what is going on inside of her- anger and upset.
When you look at how she holding the children’s hands it is distressing. It’s not loving. It’s obligatory and cold as she grips Hannah’s and Adan’s wrists. By the tension evident in Kate’s forearms, she pulls the children’s arms up in what is clearly an uncomfortable hand position for the children.
Hannah’s hand in her pocket is a self comforting or self soothing gesture as she finds solace in her pocket. Being grabbed by the wrist with such force and having her arm pulled would not feel good, to anyone, let alone a five year old child. So. Hannah is putting her hand in her pocket as a form of protecting her free arm and hand from Kate’s wrath Hannah looks so sad as she looks down. Her furrowed forehead and sad facial expression indicates she is extremely unhappy. She also looks away to the side as thought she wants to detach and get away from her mother’s anger that she is no doubt feeling.
Kate appears to be grabbing Adan’s wrist with force as well as you can clearly see by the muscle tension in her forearm . The facial expression of this once happy smiling child is so sad to see .He has no smile on his face as there is a lot of tension in his lips, indicating unhappiness. He looks ahead and appears to be detached- in a world of his own, no doubt, as a means to avoid Kate’s anger. Like Hannah, Adan is not too pleased with having his arm tightly grabbed. His free hand reflects this. It is curved under in a fist like fashion, indicating that he is feeling angry at what his mom is doing with his arm and unhappy.
It is clear that Kate has been spending a lot of times working out her arms in a gym as they look quite muscular. My suggestion is that she spend an equal amount of time working on her children’s emotional health, consulting with a child psychologist. She needs someone to intervene and help her with her relationship with her kids, especially now that there is a breakup, or she is going to create a situation with there are eight very disturbed children. From watching the show since its inception it is clear that there is a huge change in the children’s demeanor., They are clearly not happy. They look sad and some of them look detached.
My opinion is that Kate also needs a therapist of her own to help her work on her anger issues. Based on the angry way she’s grabbed her kids hands as clearly seen in this photograph, she is no doubt transferring that anger on to her kids.
We recently saw a smiling and very happy Jon Gosselin when he and his new girlfriend Hailey Glassman were on a yacht in France. But now that he’s home with Kate and the kids his body language shows just how miserable he is. With his back to Kate, visible tension in his jaw, and bottle in hand (is it Jack Daniels?) Jon is taking a huge step which indicates that he is walking quickly to no doubt get away from Kate as fast as he can. His head jutting forward also indicates that he is not too happy about being home.
Kate, with her rounded shoulders and hunched over body language is feeling dejected, rejected, and resigned to the fact that she can no longer verbally abuse, push, slap Jon around as we saw her do for the past five seasons on the show. While holding on to her coffee cup, we also see Kate cross over her on to her lap. That along with her crossed legs, are protective body language signals. In essence Kate is minimizing herself as she takes up less space indicating that she is no doubt feeling very insecure these days. Kate’s body language is out of character. It is unlike the confident body language we have seen on the shows where she took up lots of physical space and maximized her presence while she ruled the roost .
Perhaps the saddest thing of all to come out of the Jon and Kate breakup is to see what is happening with their innocent little children. Adan’s ( the one with the glasses who is crazy about animals) little body language says it all. He obviously feels the tension between the two, and doesn’t want any part of it. So , he literally turns his back on his parents, preferring to focus on what looks like a cup in his hand. His arm is at a right angle and his ramrod straight posture shows that there is tension in his little body. This is obviously a very uncomfortable situation for this sensitive and loving little boy whom we have seen grow up on the show.
The body language between President Obama and Libyan leader Muammar Abu al-Gaddafi says a lot of good things in terms of the relationship between the two men. Al Ghadaffi leans his body towards Obama and stretches out his hand a greater distance in what appears to be a firm gripped handshake. This indicates that he is making an effort to reach out. Both leaders look eye to eye at one another and share and there is an open mouthed bright smile showing teeth.
This indicates an openness and trust between the two and may indicate that they are seeing eye to eye. Apparently they do appear to see eye to eye as far as Iran’s nuclear program is concerned-a topic they discussed during their meeting. Both leaders agree that Iran should have a nuclear program as long as it is for peaceful purposes and not to develop nuclear weapons.
Finally, Al Ghadaffi’s shoulders are slightly rounded during his handshake, thus indicating deference and respect towards President Obama. In response, we see President Obama’s other hand extended with his open palm facing Al Ghadaffi and his thumb pointing upwards. This body language gesture indicates openness, confidence, and trust which Obama is expressing towards Al Ghadaffi. In essence Obama is saying that he is expressing a high level of confidence that he trusts that the two leaders will work together in harmony
BODY LANGUAGE BETWEEN OBAMA AND MEDVEDEV INDICATES OPENESS IN US AND RUSSIAN RELATIONS
July 16, 2009
This recent photo of US President Barak Obama and Russian President Dmitriy Medvedev speaks
volumes about positive US and Russian relations. In analyzing the body language of
these two world leaders we see three things that indicate openness, willingness to communicate, and
good relations between the two leaders.
Their respective torsos leaning in towards one another, their identical open hand gestures
mirroring one another , and their toe’s pointed in one another’s direction are all three strong
body language indicators they are on the same page.
Their heads are leaning in orders one another which indicates their willingness to communicate and
literally “put their heads together” to come up with a workable solution. It also indicates that they are
Medvedev’s open eyed raised eyebrow gesture, his slightly open jaw, and relaxed facial appearance
along with Obama’s warm and genuine smile even displaying teeth/ further indicates an openness and
a great comfort level between these two world leaders
Their hand gestures are identical as they both lean their arms, shoulders and hands towards one
another. Their displaying open palms towards one another indicates that they come in friendship as
colleagues with an open agenda.
The fact that their legs are pointed in one another’s direction is also a good sign. While Medvedev is
still a bit more reserved and holding back a bit as indicated by his crossed legs, Obama’s open leg
position shows that he is more open.
Their toes pointing in one another’s direction indicates that these two most powerful
world leaders genuinely like and respect one another which may have favorable repercussions
on their respective countries.
PRESIDENT OBAMA AND PRESIDENT SARKOZY’S BODY LANGUAGE REVEAL THEY ARE MEN WHO APPRECIATE A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN’S BODY
July 10, 2009
President Obama on the other hand, is a lot more obvious and a lot less discreet. He is definitely a man who appears to appreciate an attractive derriere. He literally has bent his head down and tuned on his heels to check out this woman’s behind. If you follow his line of vision, there is no doubt as to what he is looking at. While we see body language reminiscent of Bill Clinton, Bill’s line of vision, however was much more focused on a woman’s breast as opposed to her bottom as in the case of President Obama. Obama’s left hand is cupped against his side as he is touching the hem of his jacket in a self protective gesture. He is saying. I even though I’m definitely taking a look, I’m definitely not going to touch. I’m definitely satisfied with the sexy beauty I have at home- Michelle.
MICHAEL JACKSON’S BROTHER SPEAKS OF MICHAEL’S BODY LANGUAGE WHILE THE MOST MOVING BODY LANGUAGE WAS FROM MICHAEL’S DAUGHTER .
July 7, 2009
While giving a beautiful eulogy about his brother Michael, Marlon Jackson, relayed a humorous story about how he saw a shabbily dressed man in a store with crooked teeth. Marlon went up to the man and said, “Hey Michael what are you doing in the store? Michael was apparently shocked as he asked his brother how he could tell it was him? After all his disguise was pretty good, he thought. But Marlon quickly answered “ I know your walk. I know your body language. You are my brother.”
I was touched not only by Marlon’s story but by how his words about the significance of body language were resonating throughout the world as were being heard by the millions watching his tribute to his dear beloved brother.
Body language is the essence of life. Having a keen awareness of it and knowing how to accurately and quickly read others can both enrich and even save your life in certain instances. It can make you more sensitive and compassionate towards others. Marlon’s words shows that the body doesn’t lie! No matter how you try to disguise it, the truth always leaks out, just like it leaked out allowing Marlon to easily recognize that it was Michael under his disguise. Michael’s body language said it all.
Perhaps the person who’s body language moved me and I am sure the world, was seeing his beautiful daughter Paris speak. The emotional anquish that this poor child must be experiencing was quite evident. Equally evident, was the intense love and affection she had for her aunties Janet and Latoya. Janet’s body language was equally as moving to me as she comforted Paris and held on to this precious little girl. Little Paris responded in kind by lovingly putting her head on her aunties arm and leaning onto her.
As someone trained in psychology and in communication there is no doubt in my mind that Paris and Blanket who was also crying and Prince Michael who seemed to be in a state of shock, all need the family they know and love- the Jackson family. They need to be with their grandmother Katherine who adores them and who showered them with affection and kisses all morning. They need to be with their loving uncles and aunts and cousins.
Even though it will be an adjustment for them, it is a much better decision in my opinion for them to be with the Jackson family, other than to be with Debbie Rowe. Debbie has not been in their lives and based on her body language, especially as we have seen lately, doesn’t seem to be the touchy feely type. These children need a lot of affection especially now. I believe it would be a big mistake for these kids to be separated and to be with Debbie .It would be detrimental to their psychological, emotional and mental health. This is such a crucial time in their young lives that they need stability.
What do you think? Who should the children be with? Take our poll.
Michael’s mother Katherine?
Biological mother Debbie Rowe?
Jon and Kate Gosselin apparently tried to put on a good front for the sake of the kids over the 4th of July, but it clearly wasn’t working. Kate had her usual displeased angry look and scowl on her face as she was yelling at Leah (the one she spanked last month). Leah, obviously ignoring Kate, us more interested in what she has in her hands. Her little cupped hand in a fist like position indicates that she is angry- no doubt at her mother’s anger an admonishing her. She has an ambivalent smile where she is attempting to be happy with what’s in her hand. But her eyes belie the whole situation. She is sad at mommy’s yelling at her.
Adan (the boy with the glasses) keeping his distance from Kate, observes Leah and hoping he doe not become the next one to be the target of Kate’s anger. His little tight hand is clenched in a fist like closed position at his side while his other hand is cupped inward. This indicates that he is both angry and fearful as he anticipates what negative experience will happen next. His once happy face is serious. His head positioned upward and little jaw jetting forth indicates anger.
Colin, the one in the red shirt is distanced as well. He seems to coping with all the negativity by being in his own little world focusing on what’s in his hand. In looking down he’s not focusing on his siblings or his parents. Looking at the down turn of his mouth there is clearly some sadness in his facial expression.
Hannah ( the one with her hair pulled back wearing red white and blue) used to be mommy’s little helper. But now it seems she wants little to do with mommy these days. She’s sticking close to daddy as we have seen her in several other photos since Jon and Kate’s martial woes. Her facial expression looks sad and worried. She’s looking at Colin in an attempt to connect with him as she observes what he is doing. Whatever Colin is doing seems a lot more interesting to her than dealing with the negative energy between mom and dad.
Alexis who used to be the happy one who was always smiling isn’t smiling very much these days. She;s holding her little hands together as a form of comforting herself. She is isolated from everyone else as she is turned to the side acting as a mere observer. She doesn’t appear to be a part of the group. Her facial expression shows sadness and her little furrowed brow shows concern and anxiety, if not worry. Her worried looking facial expression combined with the position of her hands looking as though she may even be wringing, along with her rigid body posture indicates that she iws indeed uptight and anxious about what has been going on between her parents.
Angry Maddy, the younger of the twins has a furrowed brow and wide open mouth indicating that she is upset and yelling about something. She craves attention and is clearly making sure she gets some. The fact that her mouth is open so wide indicates that she is speaking very loudly if not yelling as she craves to be heard.
Jon appears to be oblivious to Matty;s yelling. He doesn’t react to her or to any other children. He seems to be detached, based on the direction in which he is looking-(off to the side and away from the kids). He’s not connecting with any of the kids. Like Colin, he seems to be in a world of his own. And finally mothering Cara, the oldest twin, seems to be looking after the youngest child, Joel. Cara is the only one who is trying to interact with one her siblings. The rest appear to be in their own unhappy worlds. Cara is also in back of Kate appearing to be in a protective mode to perhaps shield the younger kids against mom’s anger.
It is so evident to me that this is one unhappy family. No celebration, no Fourth of July, no hot dog treats or ice cream or fireworks are going to make this family smile. Jon and Kate’s attempt at keeping up a front for the sake of the kids clearly isn’t working. The kids know there is trouble between their parents and they aren’t happy about it. That is why in my strong opinion, that Jon and Kate go for couples counseling in an attempt to really try and salvage their marriage for the sake of the kids. A lso for the sake of the kids, they need to have each of the kids in family counseling and individual counseling so that they will have a positive and productive outlet which will help them cope with this obvious upsetting situation in their young lives/